EN 32 How to Set Healthy Boundaries Without Guilt

Why do we feel guilty when we say no even when something doesn't feel right? Why do we stay in situations that drain us — just to keep peace with others? 

🎙️ Today on #JanaTalk, I'm welcoming back Stefanie Goertz — but this time, our conversation is different. This is not a classic interview. This is a real, open and honest conversation between two friends who have both experienced what it means to lose themselves… and find their way back again. Stefanie Goertz is half Guatemalan, half German. She works as a project coordinator at the University of Potsdam and is also a certified horse-assisted coach. We've already had a beautiful conversation together in Episode N6, where we talked about Guatemala, cultural identity, and her personal journey. 

This time, we go deeper — into something that touches all of us in everyday life: boundaries. Because boundaries show up in everyday life — in relationships, in work, in family, in the small moments where we say "yes" when we actually mean "no". And many of us were never taught how to do it differently.

About this episode

In this conversation you will discover:

🔹 Why saying "no" often feels guilty or selfish
🔹 The hidden connection between boundaries and self-worth
🔹 How childhood and past experiences shape our behavior today
🔹 Why people-pleasing slowly drains our energy
🔹 How to communicate boundaries in a kind but firm way
🔹 Practical examples of healthy boundaries in real life
🔹 How to protect your peace without pushing people away
🔹 Why boundaries are not rejection — but self-respect and much more

▶️ TOPIC: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Without Guilt
▶️ WHEN: Sunday 17. 5. 2026 od 19:00
▶️ WHERE: YouTube channel @Jana_Talk

I'm looking forward to seeing you in the next episode.
Wishing you a beautiful day.

With love,
Jana

Every time we say yes to something that hurts us, we slowly say no to ourselves. Saying no does not make you selfish. It makes you honest. Healthy boundaries are one of the deepest forms of self-respect.

About the guest: Stefanie Goertz

Stefanie Goertz is a certified horse-assisted coach, project coordinator at the University of Potsdam, and a passionate advocate for emotional wellbeing, self-awareness and healthy boundaries.

Born into both Guatemalan and German cultures, Stefanie's personal journey has deeply shaped the way she sees human relationships, identity and emotional balance. Through her own experiences, she discovered how easily people can lose connection with themselves while trying to meet expectations, avoid conflict or constantly take care of others.

Her work and perspective focus on helping people reconnect with their authentic selves, understand their emotional patterns and create healthier relationships — not through perfection, but through honesty, self-respect and awareness.

Through her calm, empathetic and deeply human approach, Stefanie encourages people to stop abandoning themselves for acceptance and instead create a life that feels more aligned, peaceful and authentic.